Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Ever have one of those days?

First your alarm didn't go off and the day just progresses from there. We've all had one of those days.

Well, I didn't awake yesterday to my alarm. It wasn't because it didn't go off - it was because I didn't set it. It was my day off and I awoke completely rested to a sun filled room. It was 9:30am and for once, the weatherman was right. In Baltimore, temperatures reached 85 degrees. The day was filled with sun complimented by a light breeze. Perfect.

On a day like yesterday, Trek and I would spend the day hiking, swimming, or playing at the park. I'll never be able to share a day like that with Trek ever again. I don't say that because I feel sorry for myself, it is what it is - a dull sadness and a sharp dose of reality. But God sent someone that has helped me get over hurt and void in my life before. One evening while spending time with this friend, I was talking about Trek and how much I missed him. He said I could take Simon (his dog) to my house whenever I wanted. I paused for a moment. Many thoughts ran through my head: Sure Simon is a dog, but he isn't MY dog. Does he really think borrowing his for a day is going to help a void left by a four year companion? What if I do borrow his dog, will it bring back old hurt? On the other hand, perhaps I could benefit from spending time with another dog.... I thanked him for the offer and told him I'd think about it. Well, weeks later, I took him up on it. Yesterday was that day. I picked up Simon late morning, put together a day pack, and we were on our way. I decided to forgo a serious hike on our first day together and went with an all-day city excursion instead. We walked about two miles to a park near my house. After walking the perimeter, we cut through to sit by the pond and soak up the sun.





After getting our fill of the park, we headed back home for lunch. I made a few phone calls while Simon rested. After about an hour, we headed back out, this time to a park right across the street from my house. I played frisbee with my roommates while Simon played with the fifteen other dogs at the park. On our walk home, I called my friend and left a message that I could bring Simon back whenever he'd be home. A few minutes later, my friend called to say in addition to Simon, bring a six pack of beer for he was making dinner for two. Now, that's a great day!

It seems to nearly everyone else in my life, getting a new dog was the solution to getting over Trek. Fact is, I needed to grieve like any other loss. I did that. Unfortunately, my current lifestyle isn't conducive to raising a puppy or adopting a new rescue. But my lifestyle is perfect for borrowing a friend's dog on my days off to do all the things I used to do when I had a dog of my own. I thought of Trek fondly all day yesterday. I thought of how he would have reacted in certain situations and it made me happy. I thanked my friend for coming up with the idea and trusting me enough to take his dog all day. Even so, I don't think my friend will ever realize how much having Simon around meant to me.

It meant the world.

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Blogger Friar Tuck said ... (3:21 PM) : 

Its sounds like even though Simon could not take the place of Trek, your new relationship with him is helping you move forward. Good news.

 

Blogger AsianSmiles said ... (3:55 AM) : 

I'm glad you found a new buddy. Hang in there, the right time will come for a more permanent companion. Have a great week ahead girl!

 

Blogger Unknown said ... (9:12 PM) : 

I'm glad you found a way to ease the pain and sorrow. Although your friends dog can't take the place of Trek, hopefully he will help you to move on to happier days.

Thanks for visiting my photoblog.

 

Blogger Sangindiva said ... (6:37 PM) : 

Although I plan on commenting on every one of your
current posts- I just want to tell you how much I LOVE your blog and admire your slice of life.

You do things that if I had the time to (maybe in another life) I would do so I enjoy them vicarously
through you. Thanks Brea :)

I am glad you were able to have a wonderful day with a great dog... you deserve it.

 

Blogger Leesa said ... (8:18 AM) : 

I love this post. I don't think I have ever spent the day with a dog, but it seems wonderful for both involved.

 

Blogger Brotha Buck said ... (2:13 PM) : 

Sorry to hear about your loss. I missed that somehow.

And, hey, about the toothpick. I was surprised anyone even noticed that.

 

Blogger Claire said ... (6:08 PM) : 

What a gorgeous post :-).

Cxx

 

Blogger D_Scrilla said ... (11:01 AM) : 

Good Read, Nyce.

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (11:27 AM) : 

I enjoyed your read. I'm glad you at least found some kind of comfort.

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (12:55 PM) : 

i call that the "life hates me" days

 

Blogger Edz said ... (9:47 AM) : 

hey Brea,

It's take time to get over a loss.
But nature doesn't tolerate emptiness...
Trek is certainly unforgettable... but see, you had a great time with another dog.

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (5:20 PM) : 

I haven't reached the stage that you were talking about in your blog. Ever since my cat died last year, I didn't get a new cat. Either I didn't feel the need to have a feline companion anymore, or I am still hanging on, I really don't know.
But I really hope that having Simon in your life not only helps you overcome the loss of Trek, but also create a whole new relationship and memories with this new dog. =)

 

Blogger Rose said ... (8:35 PM) : 

I'm glad that your friend's dog help you fill a void if only for one day. No dog will ever be able to replace Trek but someday you will open your heart for another dog.

 

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